Selfishness and survival?

They go hand and hand. The thing is long as your selfishness doesnot jeopardize anyone else's survival or is a result of ill nature towards someone then it's ok. Selfishness is not meant to be liked but it's a natural response to survival and self preservation. Now why am I talking about selfishness and survival in a marriage debate. The event of divorce has put a lot of mens survival in jeopardy. I was told that because I oppose marriage that I am selfish and that is the opposite of love. Let me say my opposition to marriage has nothing to do with how much I would love whom I'm with. If I see tons of fellow males getting taken to the cleaners in divorce to the point their survival, sanity, and peace of mind come into question it is only out of instinct that I back away from that which is causing men to fall. And only encourage others to do the samething. Also if you can get fulfillment without putting your survival into question why do that which would place yourself in jeopardy or at the mercy of someone else? Self preservation comes before all else. Survival of ones self shouldnot be jeopardized because of a womans emotions turned sour. Just because I don't trust someone enough to put myself in a situation that I can't walk away from doesnot mean I don't love them. It doesn't make sense to die for someone if you love them, or worse die because of them. You can't do anything for them if your dead. And on top of that it's no longer ideal in the 21st century for a man to ensure the survival of a woman. If they are hell bent on equality (which I'm all for) they shouldnot seek to have equal footing with men and then want them to ensure their survival. Now I was also told that there is better chance of survival in the family unit than it is being single. I agree and at the sametime disagree. I agree if things are running smoothly and no one is combative and everyone is honest then yes it could increase a persons chance of survival. But 9/10 in this day and age that willnot happen. If ones house is not a home and the family is dysfunctional and the couple is headed for divorce (which most marriages in this day and time are) it could lower a persons chance of survival. And let me not throw in the other extremes that could happen. Sometime in a marriage your that much closer to being dead or in jail. And that is because conflict is closed proximity and negative energy is contained to a small space. So due to the fact marriage has high potential to jeopardize ones survival is another reason it should be avoided. You don't need marriage to get what you need from a marriage.